Helpful Clues For A Better Relationship

Probably the one hurdle to cross is learning how to communicate early in the search process for a better romantic relationship.    These suggestions also apply to friendships, business relationships and you life in general.   This process  has  been difficult for all of us, but trust me here if you do not ask the right questions then problems will jump back into the basket of  dilemma later down the road.   First and foremost you must discern information about this soul by judging his/her actions.   Are they on time? Do they complete task when volunteering to help you?  Do  they do what they say they are going to do?     Are  they constantly blaming others for their problems?   Does the partner have mood swings with other individuals as well as you?  Do you like the way they dress?   Can you be accepting of their family background or better yet have you met the family?   I can go on and on with this type of questioning, but hopefully you get the picture.    You would be surprised to learn that few people even come close to their own search.   We are not playing "Cinderella " here.  The search for Prince or Princess Charming is a process, and either you get onto the discovery path or you will enjoy the same thing once more.   There are no short cuts to this journey, but if you enjoy having the same experience over and over again enjoy.   The worst of all is sex.  Your sex partners past and present should also be part of the discussion.  I would guess that most people with problems have never ventured into this "land of the unknown".  It is always put on the "back burner" of life.  Sexually transmitted diseases have now become a killer to us all.  Wake up!  Ask questions.  These series of questions  will help you establish trust or, lack of trust, with the partner.  Remember, you life is important enough to protect. 

Your job is to learn to step up to the plate and observe.   Always when it is something that is not acceptable, it will be your job to turn it down.  Do not "oh well"  this situation as it will never go away.  Remember, it is not your job to remake this individual, it is your job to accept and love this individual, or gently dismiss this individual from your possibilities.    And always, it is essential to hold the sex until these questions have been resolved. Once sex has entered into the picture everyone shuts down emotionally to protect the relationship, or protect the ability to have sex.    The sexual relationship becomes the "golden calf" of the duo involved, and talk is suspended for a while until yes, the relationship runs off into the ditch with problems.  To avert problems it is important to "load your basket" so to speak with as much information that you can obtain  so that you can select a better partner.

For me, it was important to have a spiritual discussion with my mate of choice.  I told this future prospect that it was not important how he believed, but that he believed.  He accepted that with a "no problem response".   I also told him that it was important that he accept me as I was.  That if there were changes that he needed me to make, it was not okay and I would accept his answer.  Again, we both agreed not to take each other's  inventory (ex. how they dressed, what they said to others, and even how to drive)  Both  of us agreed we would work on this concept of "no inventory taking".   Even when one of us is gaining weight, we stay silent,  even now. 

Point of observation here.  No one wants to talk about sex.  Well, this is a major factor.   This can be a death sentence for a couple as love.   On the humorous side  my friends from another planet once said, " if you folks ever learn how to have sex, you will quit jumping from bed to bed."   I thought that was funny then, I still smile with amusement.  Have a good day.  J

  

Learning to Find Your Path

There are several clues in finding our Spiritual pathway.   All are simple, but the first lesson to understand is that each of us must become totally honest with ourselves.   Not always easy as sometimes the aging time clock is a necessity in order to have a closer look at the past.   For me, it was natural to have the spiritual side as a part of my life.  Early life centered around the church and its activities.  This was important to both my mother and father as my father gave much importance to having a good spiritual background.  So, count on it we were always at church.  Some of the religious rebellion even started with early childhood.  My sister did not like the church of our family, and so we moved out to the suburbs to another church.   That sounds insignificant, yet to protest and get results from a child was enormous at that time.  Mother and Dad wanted us to be happy, and so they complied. 

When deciding a trade if you are curious about your talents, always check the family employment history.  How did they earn their money?   Here's my example.  My great grandfather was "deported" from England due to alcoholic behavior.  He lost his inheritance and came to America where he settled into the North Eastern Portion of the United States and apprenticed under a wood craftsman to learn the art of carpentry.   Wood design such as molding, furniture making, finished carpentry became his trade.  He moved westward and established a mill in Gainsville, Texas.  There his son developed and maintained these skills and earned a good living for his family.  They later moved to Fort Worth and here is the rest of the story.  My father became interested in furniture was a well know dealer and both my mother and father created the idea of interior design as a means of selling furniture.  There reputation as decorators was well established.  One cousin became a realtor, one a mortgage banker, and the other a sash and door man that moved to California.  All of these cousins were indirectly connected to wood crafts of one kind or another.  My degree was in interior design, and looking back it was no surprise as my family was connected to design with architecture one way or another.  It all began with the Great Grandfather and his apprenticeship to wood.   

And the psychic connection?  Okay, all of the grandmothers were either spiritually driven by the church or adopting a rebellious attitude and going to "readers", spiritualist, palmist, as a personal quest to discover self.  It is no wonder, I picked up on the opportunity to learn cards.....it too was developed by the family self interest. 

Music was important in the family.  Both grandmothers played musical instruments, and  encouraged all of the children to be musically educated.  I do play piano, and like my grandmother when I am depressed turn to music for serenity. I am in no way " Liberace", but I do find comfort from music, and I do understand that it works the creative side of the brain.    This is very important for all of us to expand our mind.  Develop your creative talents in the field of artistic expression.  (you might surprise yourself!)  My Dad was a gifted painter.  I was forced to learn how to draw in school.  I did this kicking and screaming.   I too, paint today as a means of self expression.  I have started selling some of my work....But no, I am not yet Picasso, and really that doesn't matter.  What is important it helps with cerebral development.

John Bradshaw, a well know psychologist,  said to discover the family ask as many questions about them that you can.  There is truth here because all of the family has a story that will connect to you.  Learn from them and their mistakes or talents.  Somewhere in this pile of information you will find your path.  !  Your family is your karmic wheel.  Learn and discover what to correct, what to keep, and what to discard...

Episode 29 - Making Sense Out of Life / A Reading with Brook

In Episode 29 of the Spiritual Connections Podcast, Judy reads for Brook.

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I have been an intuitive all my life. My clairsentience enables me to sense the physical makeup, health condition, personality and the character traits of a spirit entity while it is on the earth. During each Spiritual Connections Podcast, I give spiritual readings for one or more volunteers and discuss spirituality in the broadest sense with each guests to aid them in solving many of their own problems, while understanding the spiritual lessons they might be learning. These podcasts air weekly on The Sacred Solution blog and now on iTunes! To reach me for a scheduled reading or to ask questions that may be answered on the podcast, contact me at judithhlane@gmail.com, by phone at (512) 470-4527, on Facebook or Twitter.

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For me, life lessons needed to be plausible and of course these lessons needed to have a purpose for learning.   Or, in "horse sense" terms truth needed to  be digestible for me in order to adopt any truth.   My whole family was turned this way, and it was often fun hearing the "why" from my Father and Mother.  Yes, there was dysfunction but occasionally a "gem of wisdom" was either taught by my Mother or my Father.    The greatest gift that came from both of them was the ability to disagree.   But let me make it perfectly clear, as a child there was no arguing with authority... They clearly had the last word.   But I was never punished for thinking outside the box.

Somewhere in my late 20's I began to wake up and pursue the many questions that were circling around in my head.  It was not until the early writings of Ruth Montgomery appeared to me that I began to take notice.   It was Ruth's work that convinced me that the idea of reincarnation made sense.  But understand here,  I did not adopt this truth overnight.  It came with lots of thought, lots of talking to myself, and  finally the acceptance came for me in that it "made sense".  Here was my logic.   Just observing humanity is enough to realize that we are all not on the same level of development.   It became apparent to me that if flowers were cycling back that humans also were likely to recycle in the same or similar way.   The butterfly is the symbol for reincarnation as in its life cycle this little insect reinvents himself three times.   It was later by about 20 years that I was told in channeling class that souls came back into life and all souls were not on the same "wave length " of learning.  Some souls were in fact much earlier in development and learning many basic skills that perhaps older souls have already understood.  For example,  those of you reading this article know that it is not good to kill another being, but there are souls here on earth that have not yet arrived at that conclusion.  So what to do?  Learn to step around, over, and avoid, but bless the lesson and continue on your path.  Killing for the sake of killing is of course repulsive to me, I have long learned that knowledge, and it would do me no good to teach someone who is clearly not ready.  Yes, you must defend your life and hopefully you  will not have to kill, but always defend your life.  The lesson here,,, do not put yourself in foolish places. 

As we remove ourselves from the drug culture, and clear the brain, we become teachable.  It takes about 12 months to clear the system of drugs and alcohol.   I am told the effects of marijuana takes 6 years to clear the brain.  I am not sure here as I never verified about the length of time needed.  That being said,  to develop of the sixth sense will not work unless your mind is clear of mind altering substances.  Be careful, but be vigilant because life is much better, and here is my thought,,,, who would want to recycle back and repeat this whole insanity of addiction again?  Certainly not me. 

 

Episode 28 - Recognizing the Need to Change

In Episode 28 of the Spiritual Connections Podcast, Judy reads for Simon.

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Changing one's belief system is not always a bed of roses.   Not only do friends fight the "new you", but the family will often buck like an old bull.  Simon's reading reflected this belief. 

For those of you who want to listen to a fun reading tune in to episode 10.   Simon's message was good, but at times it was hard to hear.  What I told Simon actually happened.  Shortly after the reading, he changed jobs and how he is doing, I do not know.   But, I was happy for him that he took the leap of faith and changed his job.  This is an important lesson for all of us to do.  Even me.  Going against the mainstream is not always easy.  It is only for the brave at heart, and those souls who are willing to test the water.  The Toltec wisdom states that  all of us must follow our own path.  In spiritual development nothing could be truer.  When you are ready to learn, believe you me, the urge to discover the facts will drive you to further your spiritual development.  This takes time, and patience because conventional wisdom will always try to keep you down.  I can remember as a child being called a heretic and didn't even know the meaning of the word.  So after much research on the subject of heretics,  I even felt that at times I was in pretty good company.   A surprise read for all of you who are of Christian faith and confused read some of the writings of Emmet Fox who was a spiritualist minister in the 1940's.   His book, THE SERMON ON THE MOUNT, became the text for Alcoholics Anonymous before the Big Book was written.  It is one of the best for spiritual studies.   And, like all recovering souls I profess that it is absolutely a necessity that you find your own version of God. 

Episode 27 - Spiritual Connections: Judy Reads for Denise

In Episode 27 of the Spiritual Connections Podcast, Judy reads for Denise.

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I have been an intuitive all my life. My clairsentience enables me to sense the physical makeup, health condition, personality and the character traits of a spirit entity while it is on the earth. During each Spiritual Connections Podcast, I give spiritual readings for one or more volunteers and discuss spirituality in the broadest sense with each guests to aid them in solving many of their own problems, while understanding the spiritual lessons they might be learning. These podcasts air weekly on The Sacred Solution blog and now on iTunes! To reach me for a scheduled reading or to ask questions that may be answered on the podcast, contact me at judithhlane@gmail.com, by phone at (512) 470-4527, on Facebook or Twitter.

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Often with recovery from either drugs, alcohol, or even prescription medicines people feel hopeless in their "new skin".  It took me a long time to realize that dependence upon anything was a spiritual disconnect from my higher power.  This was hard for me to accept as I had already begun my spiritual path before the rooms of recovery found me.  This reading deals with learning how to "fly"  and work on a new way to take charge of your life.  Denise, a very talented woman in business, was like all of us.  She was  learning how to adopt to changes in her life by taking charge.  That meant everything was to change, and most of all, she was to be responsible for  the decisions that she would   make  while living in the working world.  

Many times I am confronted with individuals who are waiting for God to tell them what to do.   God does talk to us, but remember the "choices" are ours to decide.  This seems to be a paradox to me, but actually, it is how it plays out.  Changing your habits, changing the way you react to people, adopting new truths of behavior can be a challenge, but when it takes hold of you and you react upon great goals of wisdom, treat everyone with courtesy, be truthful to the best of your ability, do not judge others, but just take care of yourself, your life will change.  Denise is able to make decisions, but she first had to adopt new ways of arriving at her own truths.  What a celebration to see such a pretty soul evolve!

Episode 26 - Spiritual Connections: Judy Talks with Glenn Kleier

In Episode 26 of the Spiritual Connections Podcast, Judy Interviews author, Glenn Kleier. Glenn is the author of two excellent spiritual thrillers, The Last Day and The Knowledge of Good and Evil.

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I have been an intuitive all my life. My clairsentience enables me to sense the physical makeup, health condition, personality and the character traits of a spirit entity while it is on the earth. During each Spiritual Connections Podcast, I give spiritual readings for one or more volunteers and discuss spirituality in the broadest sense with each guests to aid them in solving many of their own problems, while understanding the spiritual lessons they might be learning. These podcasts air weekly on The Sacred Solution blog and now on iTunes! To reach me for a scheduled reading or to ask questions that may be answered on the podcast, contact me at judithhlane@gmail.com, by phone at (512) 470-4527, on Facebook or Twitter.

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This is an unusual post as I normally give a reading rather than an interview.  Mr. Kleier has two books now published and both are great reads.   He took the time to talk with Mark and me.  What an absolute treat this  was for me.  Mr. Kleier, like most of us, had a formal religious educational experience, and like many of us, had many unanswered questions that could not be put to rest.  His background is Catholic as mine Protestant, but the two of us each had similar experiences in the field of religious training from the Church.  I certainly cannot speak from his perspective, but for me I entered into adulthood with more questions about my spirituality than the church could answer.  My journey began at an early age particularly with little messages that were given to me along the way.   It was not until much later that I put the puzzle together as intuitive messages from my "spiritual guides".  If you are suspicious of your own messages, you will enjoy his books.  His humor and  his ability to weave history within a modern story is fabulous, of course it was interesting to receive a small amount of history about the Catholic Church.   For a good read, I encourage you to look at The Last Day and The Knowledge of Good and Evil.   My prayer is that you enjoy the interview.  The three of us had a good time.  The message for you today is to learn to believe in your own instincts.  All of us will have different truths, but many are similar.  We are each on our own paths. 

Finding Your Path or Understanding Dharma

In Episode 25 of the Spiritual Connections Podcast, Judy reads for Denise.


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I have been an intuitive all my life. My clairsentience enables me to sense the physical makeup, health condition, personality and the character traits of a spirit entity while it is on the earth. During each Spiritual Connections Podcast, I give spiritual readings for one or more volunteers and discuss spirituality in the broadest sense with each guests to aid them in solving many of their own problems, while understanding the spiritual lessons they might be learning. These podcasts air weekly on The Sacred Solution blog and now on iTunes! To reach me for a scheduled reading or to ask questions that may be answered on the podcast, contact me at judithhlane@gmail.com, by phone at (512) 470-4527, on Facebook or Twitter.

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All of us are on our own paths whether we understand this concept or not.  It is as if we have made a commitment before birth of the lessons that are needed for us to learn, and there has been a promise made to follow this path or journey.  It is the soul that  determines exactly how much time they need in order to fulfill this journey's requirement.   Some souls choose a short time line perhaps to complete karmic lessons with individuals or perhaps complete all that they are ready to learn.  I am not God here and cannot answer to everything, but it is clear that just because the lifetime of an individual is short be it six months or six minutes there was something learned.  Sometimes as I was told, the soul even chooses to not stay and therefore leaves.  Crib death could possible be such a case. 

As we enter life, we are surrounded by our own spiritual guides to help with the journey.  The humor is that as earth souls of course we have forgotten all of this information because that too is the lesson to be learned while on earth.....that of faith.   As we go through the present lifetime, I spiritual guides will change according to the lessons that we are learning. 

This reading for Denise was an interesting reading because her journey is a story in itself.  Denise spent 12 year in the penal system here in Texas.  She was 40 (+?-) and transformed herself over the years into a lovely soul.   I met her shortly after her arrival back into the system, and was astonished that she had so many challenges, yet her faith was accepting of the consequences.   She, like me, was recovering from addiction, and also like me recognized the need for change in order to survive and remain out of jail.  What a delight she is.  You will enjoy this reading as it will be worth your while to listen.   Her "Dharma"  is certainly being fulfilled, and I am amazed at her spiritual strength.