Finding Your Path or Understanding Dharma

In Episode 25 of the Spiritual Connections Podcast, Judy reads for Denise.


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I have been an intuitive all my life. My clairsentience enables me to sense the physical makeup, health condition, personality and the character traits of a spirit entity while it is on the earth. During each Spiritual Connections Podcast, I give spiritual readings for one or more volunteers and discuss spirituality in the broadest sense with each guests to aid them in solving many of their own problems, while understanding the spiritual lessons they might be learning. These podcasts air weekly on The Sacred Solution blog and now on iTunes! To reach me for a scheduled reading or to ask questions that may be answered on the podcast, contact me at judithhlane@gmail.com, by phone at (512) 470-4527, on Facebook or Twitter.

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All of us are on our own paths whether we understand this concept or not.  It is as if we have made a commitment before birth of the lessons that are needed for us to learn, and there has been a promise made to follow this path or journey.  It is the soul that  determines exactly how much time they need in order to fulfill this journey's requirement.   Some souls choose a short time line perhaps to complete karmic lessons with individuals or perhaps complete all that they are ready to learn.  I am not God here and cannot answer to everything, but it is clear that just because the lifetime of an individual is short be it six months or six minutes there was something learned.  Sometimes as I was told, the soul even chooses to not stay and therefore leaves.  Crib death could possible be such a case. 

As we enter life, we are surrounded by our own spiritual guides to help with the journey.  The humor is that as earth souls of course we have forgotten all of this information because that too is the lesson to be learned while on earth.....that of faith.   As we go through the present lifetime, I spiritual guides will change according to the lessons that we are learning. 

This reading for Denise was an interesting reading because her journey is a story in itself.  Denise spent 12 year in the penal system here in Texas.  She was 40 (+?-) and transformed herself over the years into a lovely soul.   I met her shortly after her arrival back into the system, and was astonished that she had so many challenges, yet her faith was accepting of the consequences.   She, like me, was recovering from addiction, and also like me recognized the need for change in order to survive and remain out of jail.  What a delight she is.  You will enjoy this reading as it will be worth your while to listen.   Her "Dharma"  is certainly being fulfilled, and I am amazed at her spiritual strength.

Using Our Spiritual Lessons from the Past To Guide Us To Change

Sometimes it is easier for me to teach from my own spiritual experiences.  Often it is said in recovery that we can learn from the mistakes of the past.  I am going to reduce this to my life here and maybe you will understand how you too can look into your own family history and make better choices.

I was not born into a perfect world.  There was nothing but chaos as I chose to enter into life.  This was six weeks before the United States declared war upon Japan and subsequently Germany as well. 

Shortly after my birth, my father joined the United States Navy and I too was a child of an absentee father.  (first lesson here, learning to live without a father)  For the next five years of my early life, I saw very little of my father and well understood that his return just might not happen.  Mother was totally honest with my sister and me that his life was truly in the hands of God.  Both my sister and I understood this phenomenon and dealt with his possible death as we best could understand the concept.   I knew what was happening in the world.  I knew that my life could change in an instant, and the emotional silence that was held within was again another spiritual lesson forthcoming,  (learning to deal with fear itself and not being able to express this fear to anyone) 

During the war food was rationed as well as gasoline and many manufactured goods.  All factories were channeled  to refocus on the war effort.   In today's world only those of us still living have experienced the shortages that we had in the United States during World War II. To sit for hours waiting on a ration of sugar is quite boring to a child, but imperative to the Mother of the household who is feeding the family.  Gasoline was rationed by the amount, and it was impossible to buy tires for the car.  Mother once drove us to New Orleans from Fort Worth @ 30 miles per hour in order to save the tires, because there was no replacement.  Now that is a slow journey, and for a woman during that time, a scary one with two small children.  She did not know what kind of an example she set by her decision to make that journey herself.  Many women would not have gone, my mother faced the fear alone with two children, and did not look back. There was nothing she wouldn't do during this time period.  She became an inspiration for me many years later. 

  My first five years, although I did not go hungry were spent with lots of meals called "salad dressing sandwiches", no meat, canned milk, no candy(sugar was rationed) and all clothes that we had were made  by hand.  My mother literally lived at the sewing machine.   The southern part of the United States was a mecca of cotton and mills with plenty of fabric to make clothes, curtains, bedspreads, and etc.  My mother made the choice to take advantage of this shortage and learn to sew.  My early memories of her was to be  either at the kitchen sink or at the sewing machine making clothes for the three of us. ( another spiritual law here learning to change when the opportunity calls for a need).  The sewing machine gave her the opportunity to not only learn a craft, but to also escape from her fears of being a single parent.  (law of polarity here used--for every negative there is also a positive choice around for learning).  My mother made the choice to learn the art of sewing and this enabled her to learn a craft that would later aid in the decorating business.  She became a master of color, design, fabric selection, and a skilled craftsman at the machine as well.  Would you believe that even my underwear was made on that sewing machine?  I did not graduate to store bought "bloomers" until about the age of 10.  My friends still laugh at some of these experiences---especially when the elastic came out of the underwear, and I had to spend the entire day holding up my "drawers" with one hand and taking a test for the teacher with the other.   Not fun on any level here. (again, holding secrets and living in fear)  Mother sewed for all of us even until shortly before her death 80 years later.  Her courage through all of this set a lesson of living by one's example or as we now say in recovery attraction rather than promotion is the key to success and learning.

This is enough  of today's story to explain how the spiritual lessons are laid out of us even at birth.  There were abandonment issues which taught me that God was always with me, even as a child.  I would, with his care, be taken care of.  Children do not see it this way, and with some the lessons are extremely hard, but hey!  Who said earth was a picnic?   My mother's action to learn a skill set an example of being able to adapt to change.  Change is all around and constantly rearing its Universal Head.  We either learn to adapt or perish.  There is choice here.  Either sit by the road and perish or join the parade of life and participate.  We are all responsible for our choices.  Choose to learn or not God does not care which one it is.  He does love us all and guide us with better choices once we choose to help our selves.   My mother always dealt with the truth straight up.  Nothing sends me deeper into frustration when I see parents hiding the truth from children.  Children know.  They often don't know how they know, but they know.  How much easier to face the truth when someone you love stands and cares for you.   More stories revealed and how life's lessons gives to us the courage to change and grow. 

CHANGING OLD HABITS OLDER BELIEFS

Our lessons begin at birth although the awareness of this truth may not come for many lifetimes.  It is important to understand clearly that you chose your birth order and all of the calamity that comes with your choices.

While some of us had degrees of better or healthier lessons; understand, that it was not an accident.  These souls have just learned to focus on their journey in some other lifetime and have made a little progress with better choices.  This fact does not make these souls better, but just points out that all of us have our own set of lessons to learn, and some of us may have been better  with  choices.    They may appear to look as if their journey is easy, but remember also, you are not exposed to all of their journey.   To put it bluntly, you have not seen the entire picture.  You just might prefer your life to theirs if you knew the complete story here. 

To put it another way, you cannot change what you do not see for yourself.  Are you the victim?  Do bad things just happen to you?  Has it ever occurred to you that you are causing your own  set of circumstances?   Bingo!!! Stopping bad behaviors or bad choices first  by admitting or owning the fact that you have created this.  Bad choices make for harmful lifestyles.  Learning to look for the cause is easy, but this requires patience and practice.  Here are some suggestions. Reflect back on the times that you have refused to stop something because you thought that this "something" could be overlooked.  It would go away, it would not happen with this "particular" situation.   My answer to these self awareness premonitions is probably  that they have been  correct.  Your intuitive thought was the better choice.    All of us have been given the spiritual guidance to know that we were making a bad choice.  We were simply refusing to change the choice because we wanted either the  Money, the Man, the Job, or the Place to Live.  These were your red flag moments that all of us and you have chosen to  ignore.   When changing, learn to step back think for a minute and listen to your inner intuitive feelings.  This can be hard particularly when it is a job that is being offered with lots of false promises that you think you can fix or overlook.  Turn it down or learn to ask the right questions and make a better decision based on your own investigation of the subject.  This is not about learning to "talk the talk", but you must now learn to "walk the walk". 

For me, I was always dating the wrong kind of souls.  This did not make them evil, but, looking back at the problem it was mine because 1.  I did not ask enough questions 2.  Take time in getting to know these souls, 3.  refusing to see what I was looking at. 

In accepting a job wouldn't it be advisable when you hear of a problem to ask the prospective "boss" how he/she would handle a certain situation?  Seems that might prevent some painful moments down the line of life. 

Making little insignificant decisions to do  impact how a job/relationship will work.  This is better than just jumping off an emotional cliff.  Hitting the bottom is not so much fun. 

Developing Healthy Friendships and Excellent Relationships

This is all about what you attract, or in simple terminology exactly what you think and your actions will attract those people that are needed to complete the thought process.  For those of you who are trying to find a better attraction either for marriage or a longer term relationship, this article is for you.  Understand this, I had to learn this program myself.  Didn't believe it at first, thought that I too, knew it all and could figure this information out, then realized that I too had to practice what I preached.  There is no simpler way, but make this lesson as difficult as you wish, but want my prayer here is to do what I suggest.

A look at your parents is the beginning point of reference.  By parents, I am referring to the adults who were the main caregivers in your young life.  These "caregivers" basically were the first influence upon you. Now this is where you need to get perfectly honest.  What were the main character defects that they had which caused anguish in your life.  This is important here that you be perfectly honest.  Here are some of the examples that were mine.  Emotionally not there, critical of my performance of anything, alcoholism, rage or fits of depression,  and eating disorders were a few that landed in my family.  Others that I interviewed experienced sexual abuse, physical abuse, neglect, abandonment, and this list could go on and on, but hopefully you will get the idea.  From this list, add other people that were additionally influential in your personal life at an early age, and continue on with the list.

When you are satisfied that this list is fairly accurate,  understand that all relationships whether it is friendship or relationship will have characteristics of this list.  Ah ha.......you're  still bringing this "stuff" into your life, like it or not; and you will continue to do so until you learn how to clear the list. This list represents the spiritual lessons that you have  chosen to learn in this lifetime.  In therapy or 12 step work, we call this your character defects. 

One major uplifting thought here.  This is exactly what you chose to learn before entering life, and it is this reason alone that these lessons are what you have needed to learn in order to spiritually grow. These lessons will continue to circle around you like buzzards until you address the problem and correct the error.  For me,  I was able to stop blaming those souls that had done those deeds to me.  I began to see in the karmic scheme of things that it was my doing and my lessons, and my spiritual path of learning that was chosen by me.  The anger left because I no longer could be the "victim".

Many choose to read self help books or listen to tapes.  One word of caution here.  These are an excellent "starting point of beginning", but knowing is not the same as doing.  You must take the action to stop connecting to the wrong sort of people.   As we say in recovery not only do you "talk the talk", but you must now, "walk the walk".   As you change your behavior and your actions, then you will attract those souls that are representative of the change.  Hopefully, this will be much better.   Many times when working with others.  I remind people that often we know what we don't want, but we do not know what we want.   So, take this as a first suggestion and make a list of what you would like to receive into your life that would enhance rather than detract. 

Here are some helpful hints that helped me.

1.  No sex for at least 12 months after a bad break up.  This will give you time to work upon your self.
2.  Learn to watch how people or prospective friends or lovers treat other people.  Because that essentially is how they will treat you.

3.  When learning trust watch to see if the prospective candidate does what he/she says that  they are going to do.  Even being on "time" is important here.  

4.  Understand with full clarity that you can not change anyone but yourself.  So if you do not like the habits of the prospective friend/lover than realize that this goes with the total package.  Not yours to fix.

5.  Important that you allow total spiritual acceptance of the "candidate".   Each of us are on our own spiritual path, and it is important that you do not judge.  But your decision is to see if this belief system is congruent with your beliefs.  If not, then you might need to think this one out. 

6.  Have the courage to back away if there is too much baggage that is unpleasant.  This will not go away, and hiding everything "under the rug" of life will never work.  Either it is total acceptance or not. 

7* Having that special feeling when meeting someone for the first time sometimes does not mean love at first sight, but lust at first sight.  This is sexual attraction sometimes at its worst.  We used to joke that the hotter the flame of sexual attraction the faster the break up.  Best to go slow when changing your attraction.  Remember the old wolf in sheep's clothing story.

I would appreciate some of your stories on your experience here.   My promise is to respond as quickly as possible or, perhaps you might like a reading on my pod cast about relationships?

Positive and Negative Coexist

Many people misunderstand that both positive and negative energies are necessary for life.  These two energies work together to help either bring lessons to us in order to learn or clear the energy necessary for growth.  It is pure yin and yang.  Sometimes it takes a little explanation to understand.  With my guides help this morning I will do my best, as of course, they chose this subject today. 

Where do you think your little thoughts go?   They go into an invisible form of energy so that they may return back to you one way or another.  Thoughts are things.  Like it or not, these thoughts are always there for the taking.  Ideas do not come from man, but ideas can be sent by man as they are received.  Much negative thinking is sitting out there for the taking and the sending.

We were in channeling class discussing this topic many years ago, but the subject was dharma or you might call it destiny.  My question to the channel, "  Was it Hitler's destiny to come in and do so much damage?"  This of course did not make sense to me.  Why would any one soul choose to create that much horrible karmic energy for him or herself?   Here was their answer,"  the energy was there for the taking."  It was meant to happen, but did not necessarily have to be Hitler.  This was his choice."

Now back to my explanation for you. 

I often refer to energy as the vibration.   Many times all of us have been in places where we were not safe, or our perception leads us to believe that we were not in a safe environment.   If we were smart here, we make the choice to remove ourselves and return to where the vibration has a better feeling for us.   But when we are drugged or in a drunken stupor, or overloaded on a mental joy ride, we are not being "tuned in to the vibration".  We become clueless and vulnerable to our surroundings.  Hitler was one of those souls that allowed his ego to take control, became heavily addicted to what is known today as "speed" and who knows what else was prescribed to him by his personal physician.  In essence, he became crazy, became a moving target for this energy to attach to his vibration and now you know the rest of the story...... Remember Hitler had a choice, but early on he surrendered this choice to drugs.  How did he create all those negative thoughts?   Look at the attitude during that time.  Prejudice was running rampant.  Envy, jealousy, greed by everyone and there was plenty of negative to draw this horrible stuff around a sick mind.  Our thinking creates this awful stuff.  My charge to you is to become aware of your thoughts.  Be careful what you send out.  In writing stories, be careful as to what you say to enjoy rather than  to say something that  could be used as harm to someone else, by simply picking up the vibration of that messy erroneous  thinking.  Understand your own creative thoughts and become responsible for them.  You have the power in prayer to negate harmful thinking.  Do so.   Let's make the earth a wonderful, and harmonious place to exist rather than a hell hole of misguided trouble.   Change your thinking change your life.   

 

Learning The "Trade" of Reading For Others

I am clairsentient.   I feel the emotion and just know it.  This is very subtle, and often it is hard to interpret, but I have been told that I am good at my craft.  All of us have some form of intuition.  Even the animal kingdom.  How do you think the birds know when it is time to fly south?  Pure intuition, but  we have been told as a people that we are not to use this God given gift.  This never made sense to me, and for this reason alone I am attempting today to get you started by developing your own intuitive talents.

For those of you who want to learn the art of reading for others as well as yourself I am going to attempt to submit some basic instructions that have been helpful to me.  I first began by reading the cards.  It was incidentally told to me by spirit to learn the cards.  I did not like them at first, as I had been educated by the church and also the general public that reading cards was a "no no".  Nothing could have been further from the truth.  But here is the first rule.  Do not listen to others and their opinion when you are learning this craft.   Go with your own gut feeling.  Always say a prayer to begin any lesson of this kind for God's protection and guidance.  This is paramount.  Whatever your medium is that you choose.  Always say the prayer.  Your spirit Guides will be there.  Develop a routine that you use to read for others your must always read in the same style.  For example, if you meditate before a reading then do so, or if it is prayer for guidance that remains the same.   In reading cards for others for example, I do not allow the client to handle the cards as if to shuffle them.  They only are allowed to hold them before I read for just a moment, and then after I have shuffled and presented the cards for selection, I allow the client to select a certain amount.  This habit never changes with me.  When reading for someone on the phone, or on Skype, I select the cards depending upon the vibration of that soul for guidance.  I have done this for many years, and believe me it works.  Just stay consistent.  My best talents in reading are in seeing the vibration around them, and interpreting what they are learning now.   I have done crime, but for me, this is an enormous amount of pain.   I even suffer with horror movies, and have just chosen never to watch that junk.  Crime does the same for me.  It makes me sick.  I will help when ask, but I must be ask.

Reading is finding the truth as it is given to you, and presenting what you are told to the client.  It is not about making "truckloads of bucks" .  Pick another profession if money is first in your thoughts.  It is also about staying within spiritual law such as truth, love, balance and doing the best that you can do.  Personally, I do not believe it is spirit's job to solve all problems.  For example crimes.  They will guide you to truth, but  it is up to those involved in the lesson to learn and find their way in solving many of these cases.  I also do not accuse others of criminal activities.  Why?  Because I never know 100%, and I too could be wrong.  How horrible to accuse a John Doe of murder during a reading, then have the client leave and become a vigilante committee all their own and murder the wrong person.  I would also have a karmic role in that mistake and I personally do not wish to have it.  Better answer to give is, "this person will be found or not, but they will suffer the karmic repay."
Always trust your instinct.  This is very difficult at first.  Go with the first thought always.  When learning this craft, I suggest that you keep a log along with the date so you can have a reference guide for the particular reading given. 

Last it just takes lots of meditation (clear of drugs), prayer, and old fashion practice.  Most people just given up too soon, and fail to learn the joy of this journey.  If you have questions concerning your personal journey, you can submit a question on this post, and I will respond.  Best of luck......

The Magic Potions for Simple Healing

 Episode 24

Remember, healing requires three  conditions for good health. These are; spiritual,  physical and emotional.  These  recipes in this post deal with the physical recovery.  I am including the auric energy, as well as the body itself.  Some metaphysical souls, myself  as well, believe that pain originates within the aura before disease appears within the body.   The following is a good  recipe for bath salts in healing.  Enjoy!  

This article is to first remind you that you and  your Higher Power  are the source for healing, but there are some methods that are available at your disposal that can enhance this process.  One of these is simply salt.   Salt is a disinfectant, and often is used in the bath water to heal.  I recommend using Dead Sea Salt.  This can be found on the Internet, and it is usually sold by either the 50lb. bag or 100 lb. bag.  Sea salt is rich in mineral deposits and is an excellent source for healing aches, pains, simple rashes, and for me even cleansing the auric energy around you.  Salt is used for protection when cleansing a house as well.   My measurements are not metric as I live in the United States.   So you can estimate with a common household coffee cup :  For bath salts.....
1.  two cups of sea salt
2.  two cups of Epsom salt
3.  1/4 cup of jojoba oil
4.  one cup soda (Arm and Hammer)
5.  5 drops of vanilla oil (essential)
6.  5 drops of peppermint oil (essential) *  Some people who do not like peppermint then don't, substitute eucalyptus oil instead (essential)
Mix this together and divide into individual portions which are  about a cup of this mixture for one bath.  Store the salts in a sealed container as they tend to dry out and harden.  They will still work, but a little effort is required on your part to loosen the product.   I use this mixture and vary the essential oil by my own intuitive thinking.  What fun! Enjoy.

A bath allows the minerals from the salts  to be absorbed into the body much faster than if you were ingesting minerals.  It is a wonderful experience, and  you should take a salt bath at least once a week for disinfection safety.  A simple technique with long lasting effect. 

Use of crystals can be worked with in applying massage.  However, the crystals should be cleansed each time they are used by different souls.  Again, crystals do not have the power, but they do absorb thoughts.  In selecting the crystals for you to use.  Again, use your own intuition.  This is very important.  Crystals enhance the vibration, with both massage, and if you are adventurous, baths.

Some of my metaphysical friends prefer and use crystals often.  I do not work with them as much as I should, but each of us uses our own talents as we choose.  It is important that when using them for healing they stay out of sight of the general public.  You do not wish to have souls picking them up and "playing" with them.  Use them wisely or do not use them at all.  They are powerful.  Crystals will also enhance the meditation.  Again meditation crystals are to be covered from the "public".
Have a good time with your own healing.  Let me know what you think.