All of us get into some kind of fear. This is one of the hardest states of mind of change. At least that has been true of me. As a child I could spend more time worrying, then resolving whatever it was that I was facing. I do not think that I am complete with this lesson. When friends tell me they don't worry, I usually wonder what kind of happy grass they might be smoking or in jesting.
Living with a program of recovery for the last 24 years, I am happily sober and realize that the most important part of my day is my spiritual journey through life. The worries do come, but now my tool is to recognize that I am not in control of future events and through prayer and meditation, I can control my thinking to know that "this too, will pass". This is not an easy accomplishment, but with some kind of support mechanism, you too can work on this problem.
We are living in a world of change now and moving into the Aquarian Age. When I was given this message about 30 years ago, I was told that this was the spiritual ride of a lifetime, but that it would be difficult. The difficulty for me is controlling my thinking, and to not get into a crazy form of fear. For you that still drink and use, be cautious, as alcohol creates depression and brings on more fear. So, you could be working yourself into a frenzy over nothing. Marijuana gives off a false sense of euphoria then gently shuts down your ability for sober reasoning, and literally puts you into a stupor of nothingness. This is not the spiritual solution to solving your problems, it is creating more of them. Sort of like a slow death.
I do not judge this at all. I too would read at night with a glass of wine and then spin off into crazies with a case of the "what ifs?". It took me a while to stop this little habit. I wish all of you luck on your journey with substance abuse.
About the change for those of your that are interested in self healing, facing fear, and dealing with others. Read on...... You are left with choice. As far as your destiny is concerned, you path has pretty much been set, but that being said you choice is what to make of your life, and use the best choices to create a much more harmonious life for yourself. Life is a lesson or a series of lessons that begin at birth. Some of us have had rough rides through childhood, and I learned to accept this hurdle as if it was a spiritual lesson. My truth is that all of us chose, before birth, this journey, and chose exactly those experiences no matter how horrible to teach us lessons. Facing all of the nightmares that could or did occur in childhood or the very lessons that we have chosen to "un do" takes time and energy. If not, then prepare to continue repeating these mistakes over and over again.