Your Attraction Your Lessons

We learn from what we attract.  It took me a long time to understand, completely, that God was not throwing spears my way in the form of punishment.  I was creating my own mess, and it was up to me to clean up this mess, not the God of my understanding.  It took a long time for me to  see this picture clearly, and part of the understanding was having a true look at the parents that I chose before birth. ( Clearly, many of you will not understand this truth, but given a little time consider this as a possibility.)  As always, it is clear to me that God allows me to make mistakes until I make the choice to change.  Then the task of undoing the mess that has been created begins.  That mess may be the people in my life that I cannot change and or the decisions that have put me in difficult places due to bad choices on my part. 

My family of origin was the early teacher, and what a ride for your life it was.    This was the origin of either past life mistakes made by me and my truth about family was they were the means that would have some of my lessons to learn.  I truthfully believe that I have incarnated with these same souls over and over again.  Shirley McLean once said that life is like being a character in a play.  I thought that to be an odd description when I first read it.  I now agree with her.  Sometimes the characters are appearing differently, but they are one and the same.  They remain in our life until the karma has been completed and all the lessons that they bring to us have been completed.  Sometimes the completion is simple spending a lifetime with them or it can be completing the issued that were created by the interaction of all of the group together.  Alcoholism is one good example that came into my life by way of the family.  Some of the characters in the play were the enablers others were the alcoholics.   We were all enmeshed in a web of confusion until it was time to learn the lesson.   For me, I had to stop drinking and using my defects of character in order to grow spiritually. 

There is a prayer in the 12 step work that ask the God of our understanding to help remove me from my defects of character.   I have always been amused when people say that instantly the defects went.  This has certainly not been the case for me.  Rather, all the defects have made themselves present in my world so that I could see them and make the choice to change my actions and my thinking.   Using rage or anger accompanied by tears was once example for me.   I was always the victim, and never looked at what we call my part in the mess.  This was not an easy task, but here I sit writing about it to you the reader.   It takes work, reflection, meditation, dream interpretation and every tool  imaginable to use in order to recognize that which we need to change. 

So where do you go when you seek changes.  Counseling will help, sometimes a reader or psychic can help.  This was true of me.  I knew I had a problem, but I had no where to go.  My first choice was 1800 dial a psychic.  This took some time for me to find help.  But it worked.   Today I was trained many years ago how to give readings.  I do that now and can for all of you if you need the help,  but my goal is to teach you as well how to find your inner voice.  That is my over all mission.  You can find me as Judithhlane @Google.com and request a reading.  This may take time or you can ask me questions on this blog.  I will gladly respond.  The reading has a fee, the questions have no fee.  Take care and have a great day. 

Fear and Chaos of Change

All of us get into some kind of fear.  This is one of the hardest states of mind of change.  At least that has been true of me.  As a child I could spend more time worrying, then resolving whatever it was that I was facing.   I do not think that I am complete with this lesson.   When friends tell me they don't worry, I usually wonder what kind of happy grass they might be  smoking or in jesting.

Living with a program of recovery for the last 24 years, I am happily sober and realize that the most important part of my day is my spiritual journey through life.  The worries do come, but now my tool is to recognize that I am not in control of future events and through prayer and meditation, I can control my thinking to know that "this too, will pass".   This is not an easy accomplishment, but with some kind of support mechanism, you too can work on this problem. 

We are living in a world of change now and moving into the Aquarian Age.  When I was given this message about 30 years ago, I was told that this was the spiritual ride of a lifetime, but that it would be difficult.  The difficulty for me is controlling my thinking, and to not get into a crazy form of fear.  For you that still drink and use, be cautious, as alcohol creates depression and brings on more fear.  So, you could be working yourself into a frenzy over nothing.  Marijuana gives off a false sense of euphoria then gently shuts down your ability for sober reasoning, and literally puts you into a stupor of nothingness.   This is not the spiritual solution to solving your problems, it is creating more of them.  Sort of like a slow death.  

I do not judge this at all.  I too would read at night with a glass of wine and then spin off into crazies with a case of the "what ifs?".   It took me a while to stop this little habit.  I wish all of you luck on your journey with substance abuse. 

About the change for those of your that are interested in self healing, facing fear, and dealing with others.   Read on...... You are left with choice.  As far as your destiny is concerned, you path has pretty much been set, but that being said you choice is what to make of your life, and use the best choices to create a much more  harmonious life for yourself.   Life is a lesson or a series of lessons that begin at birth.  Some of us have had rough rides through childhood, and I learned to accept this hurdle as if it was a spiritual lesson.  My truth is that all of us chose, before birth, this journey, and chose exactly those experiences no matter how horrible to teach us lessons.  Facing all of the nightmares that could or did occur in childhood or the very lessons that we have chosen to "un do" takes time and energy.  If not, then prepare to continue repeating these mistakes over and over again.   

Understanding How to Heal

One of the simplest to understand, and yet one of the hardest to understand is how to heal your self. 

The body knows how to do this, but it is lacking the full cooperation of your mind.  Both are necessary in order to accomplish this task.  Very simple, but very difficult.  For me, it has been a lifetime of understanding, and I will now share with you that which I have learned.  Yes, the body knows how to heal itself, but the mind or your thinking often gets in the way to nudging this along. 

Disease or "dis ease" is simply being out of balance with your body, mind, and spirit.  When this happens in general sometimes it is years before the actual life threatening sickness or disease occurs.  Cancer is one example of what I am talking about. 

Often, we bring into our life the propensity to have a certain disease as the disease itself is actually a lesson of understanding just exactly what we are bringing on ourselves.  In short, it is a lesson that arrives by our own doing to teach us that we are creating our own mess.   Sometimes, it has been a series of lifetimes that we , as souls, have continued to repeat this disease over and over again.   Many cancer patients exhibit problems of control.  Not being happy with their lives or ones that live around them.  They usually  either run around trying to tell others what to do,  how something should work, or exactly how something should not be.  The lesson here is only that God is in control and we are not in charge of others and their actions.  We have choice, and need to be out of every one's business, but our own.   Cancer can be a by product of this kind of narrow mindedness that creates havoc within our own bodies.   I am oversimplifying  this example, but do not think that I am far off here.  As I was once told that when we evolve to a certain level, we will not tell people what disease we have as they will know how sick we are in our minds.   For me,  I believe this fact.

Okay, so first in healing.  Clear the mind with negative thinking.  Your body is a cellular universe with different systems communicating  with each cell that receives instructions from your brain which is like the transformer of the information system to the body.  Negative thinking about yourself sets us a system that turn upon itself and creates disease or disharmony within the body.  Not good folks.   Practice on a daily level whenever you begin to have doubts about your talents and place in the universe to recognize this erroneous thinking and delete these thoughts.   On a daily basis I had a request to the God of my understanding to guide me through this process.  And yes, it does get easier and better with time.  Be patient success will eventually follow.

Second, begin to look at what the disease is teaching you.  Are you learning that you need other people?  Are you learning that you need to improve your thinking about others, and enlisting others aid or help when ask?  Are you truthful?   Do you complete your jobs because it is the right thing to do or because you "have to"?   Do you resent others?   What is your overall attitude of life? 

Third,  remain steadfast.  There is no quick fix.  Healing takes time and a willingness to stay the course.  Often western medicine only mask the symptom and does nothing toward healing the body.  Are you looking for a quick fix or a solution?    Diet, exercise, meditation,  coupled with a good attitude toward others certainly helps and is a daily reminder for us all to not judge others but keep moving toward the path of enlightenment.  

My right arm was paralyzed for about 9 months.  I had to take my own advice and follow this path.  Either I believe in what I say or not.  I am in to my 12th month of recovery.  My arm has 90% recovery.  I swim at least once a week and exercise at the gym twice a week.  Not to mention my daily work outs at home.   Meditation and prayer are with me always.   You can do this as well.   Blessings to all of you!   

What Can You Change?

This is one of the hardest lessons that I have had to learn.  What is my responsibility when it comes to change?  

I was like many of us are, "the armchair quarterback".  Most of us are able to look at the defects of others and offer a  simple solution either in our mind or by giving advice that was not ours to give.  It took many years for me to realize that everything that I attracted was brought to me by my own thinking.  It was all of my anger, rage, that brought people around me with the same stuff.  I could see the defect within them, but was clueless that it was me that also suffered from the same defect.  I was either the victim or the perpetrator with all of it. 

We cannot change others.  Nor can we judge them.  Each of us are on our own spiritual path with our own lessons that will be supplied by the Universe or the God Energy as I sometimes call it.  No, this energy is not a man.  If you think so, then your God is entirely too small.  It is not God in my belief that judges us, it is our own self that sees the truth when we cross over and understand that it is up to us to repair our own damage made by our own mistakes. 

Truly, if we understand that every thought, action, and prayer was answered we would have an entirely different way of dealing with problems.   Instead, we venture through life fixing others, criticizing  others and are only creating karmic damage to ourselves.  We think that if something feels good it is positive energy.  Not necessarily so.  Often when we are solving (so we think), or preventing someone else from having to suffer, we are karmically  creating our own mess and probably sending a negative charge. 

In parenting, I did not want my children to suffer consequences that were not going to be pleasant.  They would come home give me their story, and I would take charge to repair the mess.  Whoa!  This is exactly what many of us do.  First, we were not there when the incident happened.  So, we play god and think we can solve the problem.  Only God can fix the solution because only God has the omnipotent knowledge to resolve the issue.  What should have been done on my part.?   First, try something like the serenity prayer.  Second, listen to all of the facts, and third sit in the dark until the solution is given.   Whoever is involved with whatever happens are only those that can work out the mess.  Not the parent.  So, how do you prevent bad things happening to your children?  Your teach them to become responsible and to tell the truth.  That is your part of a good parent.  You cannot believe what you have not been through.   You explain to your children that their thoughts and actions create their choices through life.   Then you sit back and carefully watch the show of life unfold as they grow up.  As I understand to paraphrase what was in  the book of Proverbs the more your meddle in someone's affairs it is like grabbing a dog by the ears and creating a mess.  So, be my guest here and try something different.  Teach your children that they suffer the consequence of their actions. 


 

Negotiating Your Way Out of Perceived Trouble

Setting rules of negotiating whether is about a work related problem or a romantic problem .  With me I was always "fighting to be right".   I often was in an argument without first realizing what the problem was or how this ever started. 

To begin, before jumping into chaos, first take a breather from the situation.  We call it HALT in recovery.  This simply stand goes like so;" Halt" when troubled and think, stop when you are  "Angry", if depressed first recognize that you could be" Lonely", or last stop getting yourself into "Trouble".  Learning to recognize that you need to halt some of your behaviors and first think is often a good suggestion here.   I usually carried my emotions like a invisible bag of rocks never realizing  that I was dragging this bag of rocks around until I usually became either, hungry, angry, lonely, or tired.  When this happened the emotional bag or rocks would explode and my family would run for cover or escape by leaving the house altogether.    Halting taught me to stop and think about what was bothering me before  I reacted in usually, a childish manner.  I had good reason for my anger, but the behavioral problem created by the invisible sack of rocks disabled my ability to address the problem properly and therefore solve or resolve the issue.  This is not the same thing as winning.  There is a huge difference here.  What is it then?  Allowing yourself to express your feelings without being in a crazy emotional stage or either anger turned to rage or self pity and just plain stupidity. It is not negative energy to be angry.  Anger turns negative when it is either improperly used or the anger turns into a rage which becomes toxic.   Anger is the emotional nudge telling you that something needs to be addressed.  Often these are minor situations, but here lies the problem:  what are you protecting to keep the peace at any cost?   Is it the perceived reward of sex?  Or perhaps living with a partner who in fact uses rage to get what they want? Or being afraid of losing the relationship by revealing who you are and fearing the loss of a love (that was probably not there from the very start).

When dating or even securing a new job position.  How many times to you deny problems about the relationship that you see could be forthcoming, but have not yet been revealed?   For many of us, upon  reflection of either a failed relationship or a  work related job failure we will always admit that we saw the problems early in the beginning stages.  We all admit that we knew, but all of us did not address the fear factor.  How different would the relationship be if some of these questions were ask.  Perhaps the relationship would have taken a different course.  But without asking why are you repeating the same thing over and over again and expecting different results?   Again, choose to make better decisions and face the fear of asking first rather than finding out later. 

Choices - Chaos or Serenity / A New Beginning

 I have been writing these articles for about 3 years.   I am going to put some examples together to help you understand that what and how you think creates your own life.  There is no man in the sky throwing "spears" at you for your lifestyle.  Who is it then?   It is you, yourself, your own energy that creates this mess we call life, and until you learn the basic simple spiritual solutions you will continue down this path until you make the change.   God is not a man, but a Universal Energy I call love.  There are guides to use in keeping within the laws of the Universe that will enable all of us to live a much more harmonious life. 

On  waking, daily minute by minute, you are sending out thoughts that are creating the agenda for your day that is forthcoming.   Some of your old thinking will also join you on this daily journal.   You are creating the karmic energy of sending out into the Universe a series of both positive and negative thinking that  impacts your health as well as  your happiness while you go through this life.  Think of yourself as a human being  using  your own transformer (the brain) that receives and sends signals throughout the Universe on a daily vigil. This reception of sending and receiving thoughts goes and returns to you as long as you send the same stuff.    Your choice is to learn how to manipulate your life so that it is a joyful experience.  By using the laws of the Universe, this journey  will continue to remain the same until we understand that changing how we treat others, live in truth, work with positive energy rather than negative will result in a better way of life.  We are all on our own pathway and the only one that we can change in our self.    Some of us choose not to learn for a while and as a result the pathway can become stagnant and stale.  These are not punishments by God, but energy that is needed to learn in order to grow and go forward.  So take your pick.  Learn from the lessons of life, make better choices, and allow your self to grow spiritually by changing the way you think about yourself as well as others. 

Teachers are here no upon earth to help you guide yourself through this little spiritual lesson, but my friends until you have the desire to change you will continue within the same lifestyle of mess until you become responsible for your own thoughts and actions.   This is easy for me to teach, but believe me this is a very difficult path to attempt to take.  We have all become victims, and often there is the pay off for choosing to remain the "victim".   It certainly validates your own personal story doesn't it?

When you lie you attract other liars or receive lies.  When you are dishonest with yourself and others you attract with those people that use dishonesty as a method of their success.  Abusive people run with others that abuse and find the victim as easily as being blindfolded.  Why all this mess?  It is because all of you that use the talent of negative energy will attract it in one form or another.  Instead of saying to yourself, "I will try to do better".  Take the word try out of the sentence and change your behavior.  Try is just another excuse to allow you to fail.  This little three letter word is poison for the do gooder.   Stop attempting and change your behavior.  Try by asking God to help you see these defects of characters.   You will see them alright, but your job will be to recognize these defects and stop.  This may take counseling of some kind or a support group.  But when you alter you mind here, you will alter your life.  What are you waiting for?

Yes, the planet is changing.  The climate will become warmer, the current foundations  of laws created by man will change.  For a while there will be chaos, but man will survive and learn to live together in peace and harmony.  So, my challenge to you is to begin to practice this principle of truth in accepting others as they are and learning to stop the war from within and change the planet peacefully. 

 

Your Life Lessons

The journey of life is not meant to be without growing pains.  Most of  us learned about life when some form of discomfort was involved.  School is one of the best examples of universal school.  We grew  up learning about peer pressure, group acceptance, rules of discipline, methods of study, and I can go on and on with examples, but you get the point.  Some of us  picked  wiser choices and learned to follow instructions, but most of us looked for the easier way out.  There is no easy way out for spiritual growth, and yes, there are some choices that are better than other choices.  It is up to us to decide.  The more that we are aware, and by that I mean spiritual awareness, the better our choices are likely to be, but I am in no way implying easier.  Spiritual growth is a difficult path because for the most of us, it is going against the grain.  Sometimes I say "thinking outside of the box". 

 None of us like authority, like erroneous rules, and rebel if....we can get away with it.  Truth is,  We get away with nothing.  Your actions either good or bad will come back to you  and repeat themselves until you learn from the lesson of life  which is what life is all about, learning.  If something is true on one level, it is true on all levels.  That spiritual law is thus:  As above so below, as below so above.   Here is the law of karma which applies for every action there is an equally opposing reaction.  Or put simply what you sew you reap.  I hear daily, "what goes around comes around".  But easily said by many and not believed by many.  If we truly understood this truth than we would understand clearly that what we believe and say is repeated within our own living experiences.  We are creating all that we think and do.  Wouldn't it be a wonderful world if all of us understood that principle?  Unfortunately that is not always how the Universe functions because many of us on earth and young souls might be ready for this kind of message.  For those of you that resonate with this message you will understand what I am trying to say.  Test me here.  When you lose something focus upon finding this thing or object then forget about it.  Watch how it eventually returns to you in a surprising way.   Or,  while driving focus on finding the perfect parking place for your car.  Do not doubt your thoughts and watch the space appear in front of your own eyes upon arrival.  This happens all of the time.  The more you learn to control your thoughts and actions, the better your life will become.  The more you allow others to have their own path without you sticking your foot in the middle of this path, the better off they will be as well as you.  Each of us learn at out own pace.  Each of us has our own path and set of beliefs, and it is paramount that all of us allow each of us to grow at our own pace.

Do not be critical of your past as no matter how difficult the journey has been, it was all in the form of a spiritual lesson for you to learn.  Even those souls that are sitting presently in jail are in what I sometimes call  God's "time out box".   Your choice after  incarceration is to either learn for the better or recreate the same experience and do this time again and again, until the lesson is learned.  Remember, there is no time in the Universe.  So take all the time you might need to learn a lesson.